When everyone says, "look what this is doing to you." Or "look what this is doing to your marriage."
Or " even though you're in pain, you should really go be with your niece and watch everyone ooh and aah over her, because, you know that's an important relationship. Yeah, it'll be hard, but don't you want a relationship with her?"
Or, "is it really worth all this?"
Or, "just get things set for the next six months. You're only 39, and plenty of women have babies at 42 or 43."
There are plenty of other things to enjoy in life, right?