tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-398826425080805683.post8734606171759280537..comments2024-02-19T05:16:19.517-05:00Comments on So Dear and Yet So Far: The next daySuehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03812637630030228124noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-398826425080805683.post-83666342413759169282011-03-04T18:50:13.509-05:002011-03-04T18:50:13.509-05:00Sue, I have been a lurker for a while now and have...Sue, I have been a lurker for a while now and have never commented before. But this 'therapist' is beyond beliefe! I have had a couple of major bouts of counselling, and done a lot of reading around (depression is my issue) and as the therapists who have commented said, rule number one is, the therapist is anonymous. Therapy is all about you. Or is supposed to be. I really really hope this skype therapist works out for you. Big hugs, daisy xxAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-398826425080805683.post-69818638885346664822011-03-03T16:16:29.800-05:002011-03-03T16:16:29.800-05:00I'm glad you heard this from other commenters,...I'm glad you heard this from other commenters, but I also work as a therapist and found it TOTALLY inappropriate and unethical to stop you and self-disclose information about her personal life. She sounds like she has poor boundaries and like you said, is more interested in "one up-man-ship" than being available to help you work through the issues you brought into therapy. I am sorry a bad therapist is making this time more difficult.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-398826425080805683.post-42640614774374068292011-03-03T14:53:32.526-05:002011-03-03T14:53:32.526-05:00Wow, so many things to say, but I'll keep it t...Wow, so many things to say, but I'll keep it to this is momentous and I believe will be a turning point for you in many ways that you can't even know right now.<br /><br />I hope the person in LA is who I'm thinking it is and even if it's not, I hope that it is a good fit for you.<br /><br />I met with a therapist for the first time today and am very hopeful that she is going to be a good fit for me.It is what it ishttp://itiswhatitisorisit.net/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-398826425080805683.post-23870616804482846402011-03-03T13:53:09.700-05:002011-03-03T13:53:09.700-05:00Wow. Just, wow. I'm glad you got out before yo...Wow. Just, wow. I'm glad you got out before you had to start billing <em>her.</em> I hope you find someone who can focus on you and where you are right now.<br /><br />In the meantime, sending love and hoping hard that things get better.ericahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06347057746449071812noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-398826425080805683.post-55852887910028916472011-03-03T13:35:04.369-05:002011-03-03T13:35:04.369-05:00Wow.
Wow.
Obviously her loss was tremendous. Bu...Wow. <br /><br />Wow.<br /><br />Obviously her loss was tremendous. But her comment to you was more than inappropriate. It was mean. Really, I hope you understand and see that. You deserve better treatment, and more compassion. You are extraordinarily able to expression compassion, empathy and sympathy. You don't deserve to be shat upon like that. <br /><br />You know, in the early days of my grief, I was so self-absorbed I coldly blew off someone else's pain because I thought it was less than mine. I regret it, and I look back upon that as a major learning moment. I don't even know why I thought that was a relevant question. I don't know why your therapist does either.Sarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03887313952590843057noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-398826425080805683.post-78155312526367218242011-03-03T12:56:51.926-05:002011-03-03T12:56:51.926-05:00Ok, so you are depressed. I think you know that. Y...Ok, so you are depressed. I think you know that. You are on drugs for that. But you're not functioning at 100%. I don't get the 'not dealing with your depression' part. <br /><br />I could see a hang up if it was *only* the twins' deaths, because that was a moment in time and time does help, but the infertility is ongoing. You are still in the thick of that. <br /><br />Since we lost our kids at about the same time, I would hazard a guess that the lack of resolution, ie having a living baby, is the bigger and current problem. And since you are still hoping and trying, that is just where you are at.<br /><br />I don't know what more you could possibly do to 'deal' with the depression. Your body is not functioning correctly right now. Exercise and diet might help you. The meds aren't enough, I guess.<br /><br />I do think it helps if you can get to the point where you don't have to think about the hot topics or your mood constantly (like C said). Maybe some mental exercises could help with that, like 'stop' therapy and positive imaging. Your brain has been in the same loops for so long, it's forgotten how to think differently. Gee, these are the kinds of things a therapist should be helping you with!Ya Chunhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08816837461370619194noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-398826425080805683.post-53506857667265374862011-03-03T10:04:33.855-05:002011-03-03T10:04:33.855-05:00I am a counselor. That is COMPLETELY inappropriate...I am a counselor. That is COMPLETELY inappropriate. We are not supposed to bring our issues into conversatin like that... ever. That violates so many therapy rules I can't even tell you. It sounds to me like she has some personal issues she's trying to work through with you and that is not the purpose of it. <br /><br />I think it's fantastic, if you can, to find a therapist with an IF background. <br /><br />If you ever have any questions about it, feel free to contact me jesstutt@gmail.com. <br /><br />I am just so sorry that you had this experience!Glass Case of Emotionhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05955456197879910244noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-398826425080805683.post-8935519283460548042011-03-03T09:29:15.248-05:002011-03-03T09:29:15.248-05:00Working on it. May have someone awesome w IF backg...Working on it. May have someone awesome w IF background in LA who'll skype w me and Dr Shrink is even getting involved ("Dr. That's Really Up To You")<br /><br />So. Yeah. Worse than I even imagined. Awesome job, Sue! But it's over now.Suehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03812637630030228124noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-398826425080805683.post-41907365915797556602011-03-03T06:39:28.711-05:002011-03-03T06:39:28.711-05:00For fucks sake, this person sounds HORRIBLE!!! &q...For fucks sake, this person sounds HORRIBLE!!! "I'm going to stop you there?" NO! Nononono. How dare she compare you to other clients? She sounds completely unprofessional and way way in over her head. (Was she billing herself as a grief counselor? Because she failed miserably there, too.) <br /><br />IF like you tried to imply has it's tentacles in just about all parts of your life -- your sex life, your job, your immediate future, your finances . . . . and you really need someone who understands that. THere are people, I know there are. Would RESOLVE be of any help? Do they have lists of people in your area?<br /><br />I'm glad you dumped this person, Sue. She needs a massive wakeup call and sounds like she's really worried about her bottom line ("I make people feel better!") than actually helping you.Tashhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07376651134993450207noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-398826425080805683.post-87509424595593710522011-03-02T22:50:23.768-05:002011-03-02T22:50:23.768-05:00The whole concept of therapy is to work on YOUR pr...The whole concept of therapy is to work on YOUR problems, YOU the patient, not the THERAPIST. I'm very sorry for her loss, but that wasn't the reason you were in therapy. Not that you need my approval in any way, but I think you made the only decision you could. It's time to find that person who can help you, not the other way around. I believe you'll find a therapist you "click" with and it will make quite a bit of difference. Best of wishes in your search.tekinoreply@blogger.com