tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-398826425080805683.post5272074303376874034..comments2024-02-19T05:16:19.517-05:00Comments on So Dear and Yet So Far: TearsSuehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03812637630030228124noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-398826425080805683.post-81302001274648117742010-12-14T14:45:29.483-05:002010-12-14T14:45:29.483-05:00I think Focault knew whereof he wrote. The more I ...I think Focault knew whereof he wrote. The more I read about pregnancy loss & infertility, the more I realize how much the drs don't know about it, how much is a total crapshoot. And yet we believe they are gods, & they encourage that belief. <br /><br />I love hearing about your research! : )loribethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09272814565916935113noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-398826425080805683.post-67406345461094136652010-12-13T22:07:54.024-05:002010-12-13T22:07:54.024-05:00So thoughtful - and so many issues here.
I know t...So thoughtful - and so many issues here.<br /><br />I know that if you so chose to do the academic track, you will be successful. And I think you will bring about important discussions - and hopefully - change.<br /><br />I think I did lose more than just Serenity - so much more - of myself and trust in the medical community especially.<br /><br />I think doctors are tight-lipped because they are afraid of being sued - and also, human - they don't want to admit that they screwed up.<br /><br />It's good to hear you finding your voice - the power in your words. You have knowledge and position that can make a difference.Ya Chunhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08816837461370619194noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-398826425080805683.post-48180024462144211172010-12-10T15:12:54.363-05:002010-12-10T15:12:54.363-05:00Oh, Sue. I hate so much that you had to go throug...Oh, Sue. I hate so much that you had to go through all of this, that you were met with such a lack of help and compassion from people who should have been helping you.<br /><br />And I think you're brave, brave, brave to look at power relationships and how people are categorized in terms of normalcy in a way that ties in to your own experiences. It seems like such a tremendously hard but valuable thing to do.ericahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06347057746449071812noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-398826425080805683.post-71504841867218338742010-12-10T12:32:28.548-05:002010-12-10T12:32:28.548-05:00this is so well-said.
through both of my pregnanc...this is so well-said.<br /><br />through both of my pregnancies i discovered more and more that for doctors, pregnancy seems to be mostly about letting the body do whatever it's going to do. there's this huge "let's wait and see what's going to happen" mentality that used to infuriate me. <br /><br />of course they would do things to try and help, but i always got the feeling that they were just sort of trying the known, and very noninvasive/almost non-medical, steps that one does when a pregnancy is not going well. she's bleeding? try bed rest. maybe it will help, who knows.<br /><br />it's such an interesting exploration you're undertaking. it's heartbreaking having "been there" in some ways but it's also fascinating. i hope it brings you some kind of peace.Rebahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16739267142330427759noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-398826425080805683.post-84832147221643864992010-12-10T09:48:17.548-05:002010-12-10T09:48:17.548-05:00I know I will be returning to this post again and ...I know I will be returning to this post again and again, Sue. Because it is speaking to me in so many ways. Our situations were different but so, so similar. Particularly this part:<br /><br />The doctors who were supposed to be helping me to finally have my twins could barely help me in losing them.<br /><br />And 2 years later, we have no more answers than when we started. No more justice. No more consolation in the fact that we were not given the care that was demanded. Not enough for litigation. Just enough to leave us with two dead babies and two broken souls. That's all.<br /><br />I know M tortures himself daily for not being more of an advocate but oh the power/knowledge relationships, the drugging to numb the questioning...yes, I will be reading this post again. After work. When I have time to adequately ingest it. <br /><br />I want to tell you, Sue, how much I appreciate this exploration:<br /><br />I wonder if it's more about determining how much of one's (my) identity is tied in with motherhood/potential motherhood/loss and what changes (or doesn't) over time. How I once saw myself as a mother -- in the future or in the past versus how I see myself as an academic, a professional.<br /><br />And well, you, in general. I appreciate you. And your voice. Thank you.mhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07830332489753742950noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-398826425080805683.post-9569413024490117622010-12-09T22:46:49.929-05:002010-12-09T22:46:49.929-05:00Oh Sue... I'm weeping as I relived this with y...Oh Sue... I'm weeping as I relived this with you. In so many ways, we are alike. Different too, but alike at times. And that just makes me hurt more acutely for you and what you are going through- went through then and going through now.<br /><br />I wish I could snap my fingers and give you your boys in the hear and now. I wish, so much.Michelehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17681333723382119281noreply@blogger.com