tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-398826425080805683.post4828805719525082430..comments2024-02-19T05:16:19.517-05:00Comments on So Dear and Yet So Far: I knowSuehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03812637630030228124noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-398826425080805683.post-17696820284398999892008-11-10T12:53:00.000-05:002008-11-10T12:53:00.000-05:00Coming over from lost and found. I'm sorry you are...Coming over from lost and found. I'm sorry you are having such a hard time right now. I have been there before myself where it feels like nothing in life is right or will ever be right and I know how much it sucks. I hope that you are able to soon find your way to peace. Hugs to you.battynursehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02240029154165501340noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-398826425080805683.post-51802165613783946612008-11-10T10:19:00.000-05:002008-11-10T10:19:00.000-05:00I think it's prefectly okay to be selfish when you...I think it's prefectly okay to be selfish when you need to be. I agree with the pp that selfishness is a part of grief- I know I'm in a place right now where I do exactly what I want, when I want. It's the only thing that gets me through some days. Childish, sure, selfish, sure, but we do what we have to to push through this. <BR/><BR/>I'm thinking of you. For sure.Heatherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09211028670642739808noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-398826425080805683.post-33448192475022378352008-11-09T18:26:00.000-05:002008-11-09T18:26:00.000-05:00Ugh, I'm sorry for all you've been through and all...Ugh, I'm sorry for all you've been through and all you're going through. <BR/><BR/>I was struck by your experience of volunteering at the animal shelter. Although that's clearly not the right place for you, I hope you won't give up on the idea of volunteering in general. In my expereince, when it's a good fit, volunteering leaves you feeling filled up -- not the other way around.<BR/><BR/>Wishing you peace...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-398826425080805683.post-42207553660921489232008-11-09T17:32:00.000-05:002008-11-09T17:32:00.000-05:00Sue, I wish I had any good words of comfort, but I...Sue, I wish I had any good words of comfort, but I don't. If I tried, they'd sound hollow and stupid, because I'm not good like that. I am, however, good at sending virtual hugs and love to you. And I'm doing so. <BR/><BR/>I know it's not much, but it's what I've got. <BR/><BR/>Holler if you need me. I'm always around.Aunt Beckyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12146687582842259611noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-398826425080805683.post-2188499152773734262008-11-09T17:19:00.000-05:002008-11-09T17:19:00.000-05:00You can't help but be selfish when you are grievin...You can't help but be selfish when you are grieving. Grief in and of itself is a self-centered thing. I remember my existentialism class in college and the professor telling us that we cry when our loved ones die because of how it makes us feel. On one hand I agree, but on the other hand I think it's too simplistic to think we can make ourselves feel any other way. How do you tell grief to go away? I haven't come across anyone yet who has found a worthwhile solution except that you have to go through it to get to the other side. So take good care of yourself and C and don't beat yourself up for feeling crappy. You have been to hell and now you have to find your way back. It's a long journey.CLChttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08030787972960755420noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-398826425080805683.post-58761460678683049132008-11-09T17:03:00.000-05:002008-11-09T17:03:00.000-05:00Oh, Sue, I wish I could take away some of your hur...Oh, Sue, I wish I could take away some of your hurt. I'm so sorry. XO.c.https://www.blogger.com/profile/02933776400434137451noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-398826425080805683.post-4414978412135134832008-11-09T15:39:00.000-05:002008-11-09T15:39:00.000-05:00I wish I could say something that would help. Thin...I wish I could say something that would help. Thinking of you.Betty Mhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02106396238018550134noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-398826425080805683.post-47397116276664559122008-11-09T15:12:00.000-05:002008-11-09T15:12:00.000-05:00it's hard to reconcile that happiness for your sis...it's hard to reconcile that happiness for your sister with your own emptiness, I know. it's that feeling of hopelessness, that it will never happen for me, that I have a hard time getting past to feel anything else sometimes. <BR/><BR/>it's ok to be selfish right now. what matters is taking care of you, and you and C. you have to come first, before you can give anything to anyone else. <BR/><BR/>you know I wish it were easier. but sadly it's not.lunahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15455301696832647867noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-398826425080805683.post-83895936158511415292008-11-09T13:42:00.000-05:002008-11-09T13:42:00.000-05:00As we have often said here, thisis not the pain Ol...As we have often said here, thisis not the pain Olympics, you don't have to win or lose. YOu are entitled to your feelings, the good and the bad. Sure there are people out there who have it worse, not to mention the starving children, right? It doesn't mean you haven't been through hell and had your heart ripped into a million pieces and that it sucks. Hard. Just worry about you and what you need to do for you to make yourself feel like getting out of bed everyday. And then the next step, and the next. One at a time. Be selfish if you need to, it's ok. Just take care of yourself. And know there are so many of us out here who believe in you and your incredible spirit. Count me in on that.<BR/>xxook@laklyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05366772609212990882noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-398826425080805683.post-22831039816677025772008-11-09T13:34:00.000-05:002008-11-09T13:34:00.000-05:00I've been re-reading your recent post over and ove...I've been re-reading your recent post over and over, trying to come up with something worthwhile to say for you.<BR/><BR/>This post sort of says it. You do have so much, but you don't have what you ultimately want, and deserve.<BR/><BR/>Therefore you are allowed to be sad, jealous, angry, and a whole lot more.<BR/><BR/>As you very accurately said, it's the weight that you miss. I know what you mean.<BR/><BR/>Please take care.Martinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11044403947730363259noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-398826425080805683.post-5702685485183868752008-11-09T12:53:00.000-05:002008-11-09T12:53:00.000-05:00I know what you are feeling. You are not alone. ...I know what you are feeling. You are not alone. That's all I can offer...you are not alone in this journey. Selfishness, I like to believe comes along as part of the grief. We are allowed to be and do whatever we want...as long as we want! You just have to know that we are all here and we understand!Amyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00912286121374215944noreply@blogger.com