tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-398826425080805683.post3013019842234769178..comments2024-02-19T05:16:19.517-05:00Comments on So Dear and Yet So Far: It was inevitable, I guess -- and a responseSuehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03812637630030228124noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-398826425080805683.post-67362843424796370192009-10-31T15:08:00.296-04:002009-10-31T15:08:00.296-04:00yes it would be nice if those who would suggest ho...yes it would be nice if those who would suggest how we might build our families could find a new way to rephrase their question, or better yet reconsider asking altogether and just assume that we have considered ALL options before moving forward with one. <br /><br />the odds of the gamble are reason enough not to try, but the expense is also prohibitive (tash said the average cycle is 12k, but without coverage it can fast grow to 15-20k.) <br /><br />aside from that is the physical toll cycling takes -- multiple injections, discomfort, reactions and side effects to the meds, and lets not forget the unknown risks. <br /><br />or the emotional turmoil.lunahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15455301696832647867noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-398826425080805683.post-19613606953144252032009-10-31T14:48:08.070-04:002009-10-31T14:48:08.070-04:00Well, you do well to respond so kindly to the orig...Well, you do well to respond so kindly to the original question. But I am suprised at your doctor's reasoning. The money issue with IVF I get, but the chances of getting pregnant with IVF are always much higher than IUI, where the chances are usually not much higher than trying alone. <br /><br />In any case, I hope this works for you with not much more of a drama.Thaliahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12125639207843989848noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-398826425080805683.post-59581530443136502432009-10-30T16:35:14.478-04:002009-10-30T16:35:14.478-04:00Betty, thanks to you, too. Must have cross-posted....Betty, thanks to you, too. Must have cross-posted.Suehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03812637630030228124noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-398826425080805683.post-50379836390429255672009-10-30T16:34:01.780-04:002009-10-30T16:34:01.780-04:00Thanks for your support, folks.
I didn't ev...Thanks for your support, folks. <br /><br />I didn't even really touch on the money aspect, did I? Yeah, now that we have some insurance, it's certainly something we can consider, but we still have to come up with an awful lot of money to make the 50% co-payment. With ICSI, which we would need, it's even more than $12k. <br /><br />And then there's the whole emotional thing of IVF. Even more intense than my IUI experience. And the daily appointments. And, you know, the whole idea of a needle poking through walls? And if I stim like this on IUI level, what am I going to do for IVF? And how well do FETs work anyway?<br /><br />Sorry. See, this is why I initially resisted responding. <br /><br />And, thanks, Jill, Mo and Will, and Tash. Thanks for backing me up.Suehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03812637630030228124noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-398826425080805683.post-81324688045222631852009-10-30T16:33:28.694-04:002009-10-30T16:33:28.694-04:00Sympathetically worded that question could have be...Sympathetically worded that question could have been a good one. I do often wonder at particular choices pople have made but generally I figure if the answer isn't found in the archives then probably the answer isn't one the blogger wants to discuss so I hold my tongue.Betty Mhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02106396238018550134noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-398826425080805683.post-71671799310797492412009-10-30T15:28:04.379-04:002009-10-30T15:28:04.379-04:00Um, Anon, $$$???!!! Hellllooo? I mean, an IUI cy...Um, Anon, $$$???!!! Hellllooo? I mean, an IUI cycle runs in the hundreds to probably a thousand depending on the medications you need, whereas the average IVF cycle (ONE CYCLE) costs $12,000. Unless you're lucky enough to live in a cool state like NY, insurance covers none of this. <br /><br />And I agree, the question could've been asked differently, especially if they were after information for themselves. <br /><br />Sue, awesome job answering with class. You rock, even when you feel like hell.Tashhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07376651134993450207noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-398826425080805683.post-64220167013324683062009-10-30T14:57:51.439-04:002009-10-30T14:57:51.439-04:00wonderful response. I'm sorry this cycle was n...wonderful response. I'm sorry this cycle was negative.<br /><br />MoMohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01671855540466269330noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-398826425080805683.post-28846271811655700632009-10-30T13:51:45.341-04:002009-10-30T13:51:45.341-04:00Hi, Jill. Thanks for your thoughts. I went ahead a...Hi, Jill. Thanks for your thoughts. I went ahead and answered this. Good luck to you!Suehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03812637630030228124noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-398826425080805683.post-49642303032943444622009-10-30T13:47:08.306-04:002009-10-30T13:47:08.306-04:00First, I'm sorry about your negative. I don...First, I'm sorry about your negative. I don't have the words to express how sucky that is - blah :/<br /><br />When I read the comment for the first time I imagined someone maybe in a similar situation as you that is considering IVF herself and is wondering about your reasons. Though, if this is the case, it's a rather blunt and oddly worded comment.<br /><br />I've been reading your blog for a while now and I never once thought "why hasn't she tried IVF?". I've been TTC for the better part of the last 13 years and have never done IUI or IVF. Bloggers have so far respected that but doctors are another story. They can't understand why I wouldn't want to "just get pregnant" with IUI or IVF - I just want them to fix me so I can get pregnant by doing it with my husband. (all this to say that I can understand why that comment would annoy you.)jillhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06645802594940433840noreply@blogger.com