tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-398826425080805683.post2902110267545361798..comments2024-02-19T05:16:19.517-05:00Comments on So Dear and Yet So Far: SoSuehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03812637630030228124noreply@blogger.comBlogger18125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-398826425080805683.post-80707672456671547672008-09-21T13:41:00.000-04:002008-09-21T13:41:00.000-04:00feeling "out of it" is, in my experience, one of o...feeling "out of it" is, in my experience, one of our common denominators. funny how so many of us experiencing something so similar can end up feeling so different. as if we all need one more way to feel isolated and alone. <BR/><BR/>i'm so sorry you're there right now. i'm so sorry you're there, ever.<BR/><BR/>and...if you decide to walk and want company, i'd be happy to join you. or even just to be there at the end if you want to do the walk alone.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-398826425080805683.post-69440386281404745902008-09-20T05:11:00.000-04:002008-09-20T05:11:00.000-04:00Sorry to hear you've been having such a hard time....Sorry to hear you've been having such a hard time. I imagine with such grief there will be ups and downs for a long time, and despite what people say, you will never be 'over it', you will just feel it in a different way. Thinking of you and your boys.Thaliahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12125639207843989848noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-398826425080805683.post-90011818572327127692008-09-19T17:08:00.000-04:002008-09-19T17:08:00.000-04:00Holding you close to my heart today. Wishing you ...Holding you close to my heart today. Wishing you only the best and hoping some day the pain subsides at least just a little bit. <BR/>This is a rough road and sometimes, sometimes you can see the good sometimes all you see is the dark, it will get better, I believe it will. <BR/>Much love and peace to you.Amyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00912286121374215944noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-398826425080805683.post-64713854823506889522008-09-19T13:00:00.000-04:002008-09-19T13:00:00.000-04:00I am giving you a virtual (Hug) and holding your h...I am giving you a virtual (Hug) and holding your hand. Please take good care, you are doing the best you can.Martha@A Sense of Humor is Essentialhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07129428477996644401noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-398826425080805683.post-44617855596514590032008-09-19T11:58:00.000-04:002008-09-19T11:58:00.000-04:00I so hear the feeling left behind in so many ways....I so hear the feeling left behind in so many ways.<BR/><BR/>Big uncomfortable hugs from me. <BR/><BR/>xoxoxG$https://www.blogger.com/profile/05010373805685335151noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-398826425080805683.post-13852883841706551952008-09-19T09:23:00.000-04:002008-09-19T09:23:00.000-04:00I hope this new doctor helps. I think being left ...I hope this new doctor helps. I think being left behind is a common feeling amongst us babylost- I know I've felt it many times. And I share your frustration of trying to teach a productive course when you're feeling like this- I'm struggling too. Keep plodding- eventually we'll get somewhere. Thinking of you.Heatherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09211028670642739808noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-398826425080805683.post-73212017873634612462008-09-19T07:30:00.000-04:002008-09-19T07:30:00.000-04:00small steps.small steps.Martinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11044403947730363259noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-398826425080805683.post-13810382062560256822008-09-19T01:29:00.000-04:002008-09-19T01:29:00.000-04:00This comment has been removed by the author.lunahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15455301696832647867noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-398826425080805683.post-75193854762772111162008-09-19T01:28:00.000-04:002008-09-19T01:28:00.000-04:00my heart is heavy to think of the pain you're in, ...my heart is heavy to think of the pain you're in, sue. I hope you do call that doc and find a comforting ear. you are not fucked up, just grieving.lunahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15455301696832647867noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-398826425080805683.post-69965476456192328952008-09-18T22:38:00.000-04:002008-09-18T22:38:00.000-04:00I'm sorry you're feeling so down...I hope that the...I'm sorry you're feeling so down...I hope that the referred doc can help. I know the struggle for something... of being fucked up.Nataliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16003334714597731355noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-398826425080805683.post-91021679331839075892008-09-18T21:55:00.001-04:002008-09-18T21:55:00.001-04:00I think many of us share the feeling of being left...I think many of us share the feeling of being left behind. And it's so fucking hard not to compare. I think we all do it. I think we all feel guilty or weird about it. I hope you finish the post your started, I'd really like to read it. <BR/><BR/>And I think, in a way, none of us really know how to deal. It's not like there's an instruction manual. I mean, I know there are. Too many how-to have a stillbirth books, but they are not necessarily helpful in any way I've found. You just do what you can to muddle through this shit and hope that you're not too much more fucked up than you were before. It's a lot to ask, I know...<BR/><BR/>I'd say take care of yourself, but I'm not necessarily sure what that means anymore. Thinking of you, hoping that you can muddle through this shit the best you can, STE.c.https://www.blogger.com/profile/02933776400434137451noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-398826425080805683.post-86023100975966921842008-09-18T21:55:00.000-04:002008-09-18T21:55:00.000-04:00Thinking of you, also. Hope the new pharm can hel...Thinking of you, also. Hope the new pharm can help, and you can get back on an upswing. Meanwhile, I'm out here listening.Newthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16517611200405647990noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-398826425080805683.post-85051593721852032622008-09-18T20:54:00.000-04:002008-09-18T20:54:00.000-04:00I often feel left behind. For a variety of reason...I often feel left behind. For a variety of reasons. Comes with the territory I think; one you're in a community, you're apt to compare yourself even if you're not really supposed to.<BR/><BR/>Good for you for getting some names, and do make that phone call. You're not fucked up. My therapist is also in the same neighborhood as Children's -- I take a different exit so I don't have to drive by it. Sometimes it just sucks, and sometimes I feel like I'm really good having to confront everything, right there on the same turf.<BR/><BR/>Hang in there. Keep writing. Remember, your blog. Write what you want.Tashhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07376651134993450207noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-398826425080805683.post-6509319249557169762008-09-18T20:16:00.000-04:002008-09-18T20:16:00.000-04:00I hope you make the phone call soon. And just so y...I hope you make the phone call soon. <BR/><BR/>And just so you don't feel so out of the ordinary f-ed up, I think we have all felt left behind at some point or another, post the deaths of our babies. At least I know I did a few months ago when it seemed everyone was moving forward in some way. Now I know I am one of those people but I guess my point is that we can't measure our grief against each other's. We all heal and grieve differently, and move forward at different paces. I know you know this already, but I guess I am just trying to tell you that I've felt that too and it sucks. I am sorry you are having such a rough time.I wish I could give you a hug IRL and just sit and listen (and I am sure I would vent too.)CLChttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08030787972960755420noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-398826425080805683.post-64205932107338331032008-09-18T20:11:00.000-04:002008-09-18T20:11:00.000-04:00My heart is heavy knowing what a difficult time yo...My heart is heavy knowing what a difficult time you are having. I wish there was something that I could do from afar to ease your pain, even just a tiny bit, to make the darkness fade just a little. I am holding a light for you, always, and sending out strength across the miles.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-398826425080805683.post-8410972712192229902008-09-18T20:08:00.000-04:002008-09-18T20:08:00.000-04:00I think that calling this doctor is going to be a ...I think that calling this doctor is going to be a great thing for you. <BR/><BR/>Lots of love to you, STE.<BR/><BR/>(and we had Ike problems here too. Not the power, but the storms were insane).Aunt Beckyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12146687582842259611noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-398826425080805683.post-11304569801880031922008-09-18T20:07:00.000-04:002008-09-18T20:07:00.000-04:00I'm not one for signs, much but I think two referr...I'm not one for signs, much but I think two referrals to the same doc is sure sign that a phone call is in order. It's good that you have so many who are wtching over you and who want to help you find a path out of this hell. <BR/>I'm thinking of you and sending healing vibes (whatever those are):)<BR/>xxook@laklyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05366772609212990882noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-398826425080805683.post-66010759353573799832008-09-18T19:22:00.000-04:002008-09-18T19:22:00.000-04:00(Delurking) Thinking of you.(Delurking) Thinking of you.Bonnyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05955429270529073996noreply@blogger.com